You may think you don’t need inner healing, but you would be wrong.  We ALL do. Fully releasing your voice, your message, depends on getting real with yourself.

For years, not only did I not think I needed any emotional or mental shoring up, I didn’t even know there was such a thing.  For “normal” people, that is. Of course I had heard of psychiatrists and counselors who helped “messed up” people. But surely *I* didn’t need help.

I was wrong.  I didn’t realize that the sabotaging behaviors that limited my success were a result of false beliefs I had built my story, my character, my personality around.  I just thought I wasn’t trying hard enough when I failed to reach a goal I had set. I kicked myself for knowing what to do, and yet failing to do it. Then I vowed to work harder, longer, more aggressively.

Unresolved issues, even traumas from childhood we’ve shoved so far down we don’t even know they’re there anymore, create a ceiling for our personal growth, our ability to have loving, nurturing relationships, and our prosperity.

The hardest part of healing for me has been facing my pain.  I just didn’t (and frankly still don’t) want to feel it – to deal with it.  When I did go there, it would be a flitting moment before I ran to the safety of humor, or changing the subject, or some other coping mechanism.  I’m just now learning to taken off the mask and get brutally honest with myself long enough to shine light on the pain and deal with it. Yes, it hurts.  To put it bluntly, it sucks. Let’s just be honest while we’re talking about honesty here.

So why am I blogging about getting honest with myself?  Because my voice depends on it. I will not be able to sway people, to shift environments, or to change culture if I don’t get out of my way.  And neither will you. I care about you – about releasing YOUR voice. Your people need you to step up and say what needs to be said the way only YOU can do it.

So take your mask off with yourself.  Get nakedly honest for long enough to recognize the issue.  Practice lengthening the window of honesty.  Hold it open just a bit longer each time.  Get to the point of being able to say, “This happened to me, and this is what it made me feel like.”  Then see where in your life the decision, or vow, you made in that moment may have clouded your perception.  This exercise sucks, yes – but it’s worth.  You are worth it, and your voice is worth it.

Until the next writing on my wall, remember:


Posted by Bralynn Newby, author, speaker, and content strategist for visionary coaches, consultants and influencers.  Author of Planning to Profit: Architecting Your Unique Story Into a Business You Love.  To contact Bralynn email Activate@BralynnNewbycom.